Experience

I am a full-on sex worker, but I started out as a dabbler, and for the first four years of my practice I was almost invisible. Aside from a few photos on my Fetlife profile (which read like a personal profile at the time) I was a ghost...

I am not special, nor am I an exception to any rule—the forces that govern my life and affect my personal agency are the same ones that affect others. Yes, I am a sex worker—and at the same time I am a daughter, a sister, a teacher, an immigrant, a partner, a pet-owner, an Internet user...

In the days following SESTA-FOSTA’s passage through Congress—before it had even been formally signed into law —sex workers tangibly felt its effect. While supporters of the law claimed to target sex traffickers, its text makes no effort to differentiate trafficking from consensual sex work.

“Oh, shit.” I had just met a perfect guy on Match that I already knew from the sex club. What was becoming of my life. Worlds collided. The last month was a whirlwind.

Carlin Ross and Betty Dodson discuss sex positivity, unrepentant slutiness, and how to get off for the world to see. Finding a job in a post employment society is hard. Doing your taxes

On December 17th of 2003, Annie Sprinkle, Robin Few, and Stacy Swimme stood with one hundred fellow sex workers and allies who had gathered on the lawn outside City Hall in San Francisco.

Like many adult entertainers and Boston escorts, cam girl Rose Red uses Amazon’s public Wish List feature to let her fans and clients know what items she’s looking to acquire. That

When I first heard about john schools, I thought they were places run by sex workers where prospective or current clients could learn how to be respectful and mindful. I thought they sounded

Look at your glove. Now look at the audience. Then look back at your glove, and use your eyes to direct the attention of the audience to your glove. Look again at your

It's been ten years that sex work and I have been bedfellows, and I'm looking at formally hanging up my uncomfortable heels to put it behind me. Turns out, though, it's easier said

If you’re been keeping up with my regular articles, you’ll notice that I’ve been all atwitter over autumn. From the plethora of squash varietals (kabocha, delicata, pumpkin, spaghetti, butternut) to

Reviews can be handy for a number of things from restaurants to services, even sex toys and lubricants. A blog that has caught my attention among the many reviewers online is Erika Moen’

In a perfect world, Ms. Dykefire would be an up-and-running bi-monthly newspaper advice column, a la Dear Abby. Though I prefer to stay in California and not relocate to Florida, the sentiment in

I often identify myself, with some pleasure, as fat. Just as often, there's a flurry of anxiety around my use of the word, as if I am judging myself harshly in some fashion.

Most people who find out about my faith and my job ask me the same questions; Things like, "Do you go to church?" or "Don't you think God doesn't like it?" or "How

I fell in love at work once.I wasn't emotionally prepared for my feelings. I didn't know how to categorize them, or how to take care of myself. I figured I was good

I've had a lot of different experiences with relationships where one person makes more money than the other; sometimes I was the flush one, sometimes I was the dependent. There's a lot of

One of the questions I hear regularly is a sneering one asking why someone would book an escort rather than casually date. While we know that people have multiple reasons why they seek

I was totally stumped about what to wear to the Folsom Street Fair. I stood in my room in my favorite push-up bra, hands on my hips, staring into the closet as if

A few years ago, I went to a big gay wedding in Black Rock Mountain, Georgia. Several hours north of Atlanta, the wedding was in the Appalachian mountains during Halloween weekend, when the

When Tizzy mentioned an event called "Arse Elektronika" (Sex, Tech Conference Arse Elektronika Kicks Off in S.F.) a few weeks ago, I knew I had to attend some of the

I’ll admit that the trek to 1620 Polk Street is not an easy one, especially via public transportation. However, the two bus + BART combination that landed me at the doors of the

Recently, I was re-watching a much-revered recording in which Sonya Renee and Andrea Gibson perform Christian Drake’s “Bloodbath," though problematically gender-essentialist (I don’t define a woman as someone who regularly menstruates)

In a dimly lit room with an assortment of restraints in the background, one woman is being anally penetrated while her friend kneels on the Oriental rug nearby. A rough rope snakes between

I always meet incredibly handsome people online. Their gender doesn't matter and it's never a problem for me to pull the hottest people in my circle (and sometimes outside of it). But being