So you've made your very first appointment with an escort and you're not sure what to expect, what to say, or what to do, right? If you are finding yourself flummoxed at the idea of meeting with a provider for the first time, here are a few tips that will help you with what to do and say (and what not to do, which is nearly as important!).
Let's start with some pre-appointment tips!
- Be punctual. Arriving 2-3 minutes early is acceptable. Arriving 15 minutes ahead of time is not; your provider may still be in a session with another client or be busy cleaning his or her work area for your appointment. Unless they have a waiting room and have given you express permission to arrive early, shoot for being there just a few minutes early.
- Have your payment ready. Make sure there's no confusion or awkwardness about your payment for your appointment. Be aware of your provider's price list and have your payment ready when you arrive. You and your provider both know you're aware of the cost, so it's extremely polite not to make your escort have to ask you for the payment.
- Tip. It is completely acceptable and very lovely to tip your provider for their time and company to you. Treat your interaction as you would any other service experience! It's acceptable to go for the customary 15-25% (or more if it's in your budget) you would provide any other service representative.
- Meet and Greet. When you go to the barber, you don't burst through the doors and yell, "GET TO CUTTING, I GOTS PLACES TO GO AND PEOPLE TO SEE!" Feel free to take a few moments before your appointment starts to engage in some greeting and small talk. It's okay to ask your provider how they are today, if they've had a fairly good day, or even how the weather is treating them.
- Answer calls or texts. Your provider may need to cancel or reschedule. Make sure to answer any calls or texts from them or return them in a timely fashion.
- Call or text at appropriate times. If you need to cancel, reschedule, or even set up a second appointment, give your provider some notice. If you're canceling, try to do it at least 24 hours ahead of your appointment time. If you find out you can't attend your appointment at an odd hour (extremely late or very early in the morning), use the least invasive method of communication you have with them. Try sending a polite and apologetic email with a commitment to call them during business hours and reschedule.
- Demand immediate appointments. You may get lucky and contact someone who can see you right away, but most likely, like every other appointment based business, there are schedules and clientele already on the books. If your chosen provider can't get you in for a few days or weeks, politely accept the first appointment they have that works with your schedule.
- Show up extremely early. If you've made an appointment for 1:00, showing up at 12:30 is not only unacceptable but could interrupt someone else's appointment or upset your provider. They are sure you want peace and quiet for your appointment and are doing their best to give that same consideration to other clients.
- Treat them as less than. Don't, as I said above, barge in and demand your appointment start immediately. Your provider is well aware you are paying them for their time and company; reminding them of this fact is not necessary and can easily come off as rude and condescending. It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice.
- Demand information. Saying things like, "What's your REAL name?" "Where do you REALLY live?" "Are you REALLY single?" or asking about children, other forms of employment, or if they feel safe or have ever been attacked is something you simply do not do. Your provider respects your privacy, so make it a point to respect theirs.
- Try to haggle/negotiate prices. Your provider has a price list because they are running a business. They are charging what they need to in order to take care of overhead, business expenses, advertising expenses, continuing education, and their time with you. You wouldn't go into a restaurant and demand the maitre d' give you a 50% discount because you walked through the door, would you? Of course not. Don't do it to your provider, either.
- Compliment your provider. Everyone likes compliments. It's perfectly okay to tell your escort how handsome or beautiful they look to you. Try making sure to pay attention to the little details that show they have taken care getting ready for your appointment: Maybe they are wearing a beautiful pair of earrings, a really wonderful perfume or cologne, or look really fetching in their outfit. It's okay to say how great they look!
- Ask them about their comfort level. It's also very appropriate to ask your provider how they are feeling, both generally and about your appointment. You might ask, "Are you feeling alright or is there anything you need?" They may need a moment for a drink of water or even to take shoes off and get comfortable. Remember, this is only going to make your appointment better and your time spent with them more rewarding when they are feeling safe, relaxed, and comfortable.
- Feel free to review previous agreements. You've already talked about what is and isn't going to happen during your appointment, yes. But it's okay to say again, "So we agreed on ______________, correct?" Note: This is okay as long as it's not done in an attempt to change previously agreed upon terms.
- Let them lead the way. If you're not so comfortable and relaxed yet and still don't know how things are going, simply tell your companion this! They really will understand and they know, firsthand, everyone has to start somewhere. It's more than alright for you to simply say, "Hey, I'm not so comfortable yet. Can you take the lead?" They are a professional, and understand that this can be a nerve-wracking experience (hell, sometimes professionals still get nervous for first-time meetings!), so don't be afraid to talk about it.
- Talk about violence. Asking a provider, especially while you are in a private space with them, if they have ever been victimized or attacked is a quick way to make them feel unsafe, frightened, and ready to end your appointment before it starts. This is not a subject that ever needs to come up during an appointment, regardless of how curious you are about their past.
- Insult your provider. Saying things like, "You can't do this forever, you know," or "Don't you want more out of life?" Also stay away from negative comments on their physical appearance, like telling a mature escort "Aren't you getting a little old for this?" or "Have you ever considered implants/surgery/weight loss?" These are rude and unkind statements, and there's no reason to say any of these things to your provider.
- Push past their boundaries. You've already agreed on what your appointment will consist of, so don't do things you didn't agree on, haven't asked about, or bring other people with you to your appointment. If you do accidentally do or say something you both didn't agree on, your provider will let you know it's something you need to stop doing or saying immediately. Do both of you a favor and don't do it again.
- Become angry or overly emotional. Would you behave this way with your hairdresser? Car mechanic? In public, ever, at all? Remember that your provider feeling safe and relaxed makes your experience better, and heightens the likelihood that you can develop an ongoing professional relationship with them.
- Try the Pretty Woman/Moulin Rouge fantasy The show doesn't have to go on, you are not Christian, we are not Satine, no one has consumption, and if you throw money at us, you will officially be the Worst Person Ever™.
- If you see your provider in public, don't approach them unless they have said it is okay to do so (and definitely don't stare at them). Don't tell your friends who they are, and don't walk up to them to talk about your appointment.
- Don't post negative reviews online spitefully. If your appointment wasn't completely satisfactory, try to give your provider some kind, genuine, and constructive feedback, or, better yet, simply find another provider for your next appointment. If you are truly compelled to review your provider, do so kindly and intelligently.
- Don't negotiate with your provider on any safety measures they have in place. What they say goes when it comes to their safety -- yes, even this one time. Yes, even every time.