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Dominatrix Violet Mays

+Dominatrix specializing in medical, somatic and sissification scenes

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“I want to eat the sunbeam flaring in your lovely body… and I pace around hungry, sniffing the twilight, hunting for you, for your hot heart, like a puma in the barrens of Quitratue.” - Pablo Neruda

Strict but in-tune and wonderfully accurate, I prefer to use sensitivity and intelligence over mean and bossy. I like to laugh, and seek to align with intelligent, articulate types as well as those whose innate curiosity has brought them to explore the darker aspects of BDSM. This doesn’t mean that you have to have it all figured out, but only know that I ask for relationships with my clients that foreground shared respect for the oppositional roles of dominant and submissive.

Why BDSM? I define it as an art that mixes pleasure and pain without sacrificing the connection and care involved when two people connect, then I believe that our energies can grow deeper and more self aware, rather than disconnected and disassociative. Practiced in this way, BDSM can be used for self-discovery, to experience new pleasures, to safely explore your submissive side.

This means that whether you’re a complete beginner, experienced veteran, or aging gentleman looking for a slower approach to a fascinating experience, we’ll go at your speed. My attuned skillset and witty sense of humour means that we’ll have likely fun along the way.

The Look

Dominatrix Violet Mays is a 5'4", slender caucasian woman in her early 40's with medium length brunette hair and blue eyes.

She is available for Male, Female, and Couples.


Like so many BDSM practitioners, I have lots of interests!

My favourites include exploring a scripted character scene, the ever-thrilling medical fetish scene, delving into sissification, exploring a submissive’s somatic potential, and the beauty of restraint and constraint found in bondage.

To get to know me in more detail, check out my website; read my thoughts, see the full guidelines on how to contact me, check out sexy images and take a glance at my wishlist.


Sessions are available from Monday - Saturday, please fill out my contact form to arrange an appointment.

All scenes and activities are pre-negotiated. Consent - both mine and yours - is always respected and I use the safe word RED.

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