I gave you guys the rundown recently on how to fulfill your exhibitionist fantasies without, a) breaking the law or, b) being a total creep. Since there can’t be exhibitionists without voyeurs, I decided that another article focusing on the watching rather than performing side of things was in order.
All of the situations I outlined in the exhibitionist article – doing it in the window, remote controlled vibrators, sex parties, camming, and Chatroulette – are great venues for voyeurs too, although obviously on the other side of the interaction. However, there are some situations that are particular to voyeurism that I thought you might be interested in exploring.
Keep reading for some new, sexy ideas on how to get the most out of your voyeuristic tendencies.
If your fantasy involves watching a woman getting pleasure on her own, open up to your current sex partner or escort about it. Tell her you’ve always had this fantasy and ask her if she’d be willing to act it out with you. While it’s obviously not exactly the same as peeping on a woman who doesn’t know you’re there, she can easily pretend like she’s alone and do exactly what she would be doing even if you weren’t hiding in the closet.
Sometimes it can be hard to get over the fact that this kind of situation is in actually a role play and that she really does know you’re in the closet. To help you get over that hump, consider the fact that her knowledge of your presence might actually encourage her to up the ante a bit when it’s time for her to actually start performing.
For some people, watching a couple is the pinnacle of voyeurism fantasy fulfillment. This one is a little trickier than watching a lady on her own, but is still a possibility.
The first thing you need to do is get consent from your sex partner. She may or may not be willing to act out this fantasy with you and if she comes down on the “unwilling” side of things, you need to be respectful of that. Asking a woman to have sex with another man is a high enough bar to cross; asking her to do it in front of an audience may be too much.
But don’t let that discourage you! There are plenty of women out there who are into exhibitionism and cuckolding, which is really what this fantasy is all about. Finding the perfect lady to act out your fantasy may take some work, but isn’t it worth it?
The second thing you need to do is make sure that the third party is also informed about what's going on and into it as well. While the idea of watching without him (or her) knowing might turn you on like crazy, it's really, really not cool to watch other people in a sexual situation without their consent.
To track down your perfect partners, check out FetLife, a social networking site that connects people based on their kinks. Search for exhibitionists and people who are into cuckolding and reach out! What do you have to lose?
This may seem kind of obvious, but strip clubs are a great place to go and indulge in your voyeuristic streak. The women at these establishments are professionals who know how to put on a show and you can sit and watch as long as your heart desires.
Providing, of course, that you tip. DON’T FORGET TO TIP. There’s nothing ruder than a guy sitting in a strip club and not paying for the performance.
I know this seems really old school and it totally is, but there’s something to be said for a good old-fashioned live peepshow. With the invention of the internet and instant access to thousands of women performing thousands of sex acts, peepshows have largely disappeared from the scene (pour one out for the iconic Lusty Lady in San Francisco, which closed its doors in September).
However, that doesn’t mean they’ve all disappeared. There are still a few lurking in major cities. Plus, I'm sure you could find someone to play pretend with...
BDSM play parties
While not all BDSM players are interested in having non-participatory viewers, others love to have an audience. Some players just like the performance aspect, while others focus on humiliation, an action that requires an audience in order to be effective.
However, please don’t assume that people want an audience that stands around and watches without participating just because they’re playing at a party. Always ask for permission to be a part of their scene because - as I was reminded at the Folsom Street Fair – “No one likes a looky-loo!”
Ultimately there are two things you need to keep in mind if watching other people in sexual situations is what gets you off: consent and openness are key. As long as you’re open about your kink and are diligent about getting consent from all the parties involved, your fantasy fulfillment should be smooth sailing.