Screening saves lives. Some would-be clients are hesitant to screen, and those guys tend to fall into one of two camps.
First, there are the guys who don’t want to screen because they are the danger. Whether they’re violent, abusive, law enforcements, or timewasters, bypassing screening allows them to keep up their harmful behavior. We’re glad to reject these guys over their refusal to screen - they’re who our screening was designed to weed out in the first place.
The second group is a little more complicated. Some of these guys would be kind, respectful clients, but they’re nervous about their own safety when it comes to screening. Maybe they’re new to seeing companions, or they’re family men with a lot to lose. These would-be clients fear that their personal data will end up in the wrong hands if they submit it for screening.
Here’s how I ensure that my clients’ data is always safe in my hands. By putting the following cyber hygiene practices in place for business, you can ensure that you’re never the source of a data leak and, together, we can set a precedent that makes clients more comfortable with screening. That’s a win for everyone.
1. Always screen.
This one seems a bit ironic, but the best thing you can do to protect clients who are scared of screening is to always screen. If you screen every single time, your chances of being caught in a sting go way down.
The greatest risk to a client in terms of law enforcement, after that of falling for a sting himself, is that his companion will be caught up in a sting and client data in her possession will end up in the hands of law enforcement. By screening every single time, you stay record-free and your clients don’t have to worry about the knock-on effects of an arrest.
2. Delete (and delete from deleted) screening information after the appointment.
Don’t keep client data any longer than you need to. If you hoard over troves of personal data, you create a honeypot in your inbox for hackers. As sexy as a little black book sounds, keeping one is the enemy of discretion. If it exists, so does the potential for its discovery.
Delete screening information as soon as the appointment has passed uneventfully. Make sure you also delete the information from your trash, so it isn’t just sitting there for 90 days, or however long it takes for trash to expire on its own.
3. Don't store personally identifying information about clients in an online spreadsheet.
I can’t overstate how often I’ve heard/read about companions keeping a massive spreadsheet containing everything from client names to sexual preferences. Yes, you want to find a system for keeping track of your clients so you can provide personalized experiences. No, that way should not be digital - at least not digital using a Microsoft or Google product, which are not end-to-end-encrypted.
If you must write something down, only use code names and don’t include personally identifying information. Write in shorthand that only makes sense to you, and don’t store it online. Sometimes being a luddite pays off. This is one of those cases.
4. Use end-to-end encrypted email.
Not to sound like a tinfoil hat wearer, but Google et co. collect your data and can do whatever they want with it. They can sell it, trade it, or use it for their own means. They’re also vulnerable to server breaches, because their own servers are honeypots of user data. Just look at the infamous hacks of Yahoo and AOLMail for what can happen.
Communicate by end-to-end encrypted email, like ProtonMail only. End-to-end encryption means that your client’s data is never visible to anyone but you and your client - it’s not visible to the server or service provider, nor is it decrypted at any point in sharing or storage.
End-to-end encryption only works when both of you are communicating from an end-to-end encrypted account (ie: protonmail to protonmail is good, but protonmail to gmail is not). You’re responsible for your end of things. If your client chooses not to secure their own data that’s on them - just make sure you’re not introducing vulnerability.
5. Don't keep devices passively logged into your accounts.
It’s a bit of a pain to log out and log back in every time you start or end a session of answering emails or responding to messages, but staying logged in puts client data at risk if there’s an endpoint attack or if someone simply gets physical access to any of your devices. Log out every time, even if it takes an extra minute or two to log back into everything when you go online later.
6. Don't use a guessable password.
So many passwords, even for multi-million or billion dollar corporations in industry, are weak. A password shouldn’t be common, it shouldn’t be guessable, it shouldn’t be reused across accounts, and it shouldn’t be based on personal information, like your birthday or childhood address. A strong password is long, complicated, and random. It does not include language and can’t be guessed with any number of clues.
7. Don't save passwords in your browser/on your device.
If you save passwords on your device, device loss/theft puts your clients at risk. It’s tempting to store passwords so you can just autofill with a pin or a biometric login, but don’t do it. If you must, make sure it’s only accessible via biometrics and never a pin - but really, just don’t do it.
8. Never text or call a client without establishing that it's an okay time to do so via email first.
You don’t know a client’s situation, even if they’ve told you about it. A cheeky photo, meant to stoke interest in a follow-up booking, can get them into deep trouble if it comes at an inopportune time or if someone else sees it. For all you know, they might have their iMessages synced across devices and texts might pop up on a partner’s, or child’s, iPad. Don’t risk it! If you ever initiate contact, make sure it’s only via email.
9. Never share personally identifying information about your clients.
This should go without saying, but never share anything about your clients. Clients are not fodder for gossip, neither with civvie friends nor with colleagues in the demimonde. Discretion is key, so keep mum.
As a part-time companion with a full civilian life and a promising civilian career I approach companionship much like my clients. It can be a wonderful addition to my life, but it’s critically important that my adventures in the demimonde stay in the demimonde. Knock-on effects in my civilian life are not acceptable. By applying the cyber hygiene practices listed above, alongside some good old fashioned common sense, we can all stay a little more safely compartmentalized.