Those who aren’t drawn to kinky play often cannot get past its extremes, and often operate on the assumption that since they personally cannot understand what there is to enjoy about BDSM, it must be wrong. The stereotypes about BDSM certainly do not assist in accurately portraying how the acts can be sensual to being with. Those people, however, clearly haven’t heard of Bondassage, an erotic massage technique that combines sensual massage and kink in a way that will undoubtedly blow your mind.

Recently, two Dominas who are well-known in the scene recently came together to write Bondassage: Kinky Erotic Massage Tips For Lovers, a how-to filled to the brim with ideas that may change the mind of those who haven’t been able to understand how and why pursuing the kinky can be a blast. The extensive BDSM experience of Jaleen Bennis, the certified massage therapist and professional Domina who created Bondassage®, and Eve Minax, a well-known kink presenter, instructor, and lifestyle/professional Domina, makes Bondassage an easy, informative read that will inspire both the vanilla and the perverted alike.

Bondassage, at only a little more than 130 pages, this short read packs a lot of information. It doesn’t toy with its reader by making them wait for the juicy information they’ve been seeking. The authors start by introducing their primary philosophy on how to have a spectacular sex life by saying, “Research shows that sexual intimacy does not occur in a vacuum; one must practice.” They go on to discuss how practice aids us both subliminally and actively. They set the tone by making it clear that the information in this book is accessible for everyone by making it clear that great sex comes with honing skills, and no matter what part of the Venn diagram you find yourself in (satisfied/unsatisfied; kinky/vanilla; total noobs/experienced players; escort/client), new information is good information, and practice makes perfect.

Bondassage covers all of the details that make for an Earth-shattering sexual experience, from creating the right atmosphere, to communication, to safety, to specific techniques that add up to create the experience as a whole. The first few chapters cover creating an environment that allows both partners to let themselves fall into the experience freely, and then it goes on to actual techniques. “Sensual Massage 101” offers not only general tips for touching your partner, but details the sensation that specific strokes and touches will create. The book goes on to share how specific parts of the body (the ones you expect and a few surprising erogenous zones) can be pleasured in a variety of creative ways, breathing exercises to heighten the experience, and how each of the senses can be used to your advantage.

As a professional player, I didn’t find much of the information in Bondassage revolutionary, but that didn’t suddenly turn it into merely a bookshelf filler, never to be referenced or acknowledged again until the next garage sale. As I was reading Bondassage, I found myself squealing, “Ooh! GOOD IDEA!” whenever I stumbled across a tip that would give some of my standard go-tos a twist. In nearly every section, the Bondassage book offers inventive recommendations that have clearly come from the minds of experienced players who wanted (perhaps even needed) to stave off the boredom that inevitably sets in with routine.

Bondassage training is extensive and expensive, and if the book is any indication, it is unquestionably clear as to why. This little booklet holds a wealth of information, and actually learning the practice of Bondassage hands-on is presumably even more intensive. That said, for those who find the training to be outside of their budget, the book may be an excellent start to incorporating the practice into both work and play. Bennis and Minax brilliantly created a manual that offers a clear and concise view of what is clearly an expansive practice. Whether you are a fetish professional or have yet to dive into the world of kinky sensuality, I cannot recommend this book enough. The investment is worth it.

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Disclaimer: Bondassage.com provided the Bondassage: Kinky Erotic Massage Tips for Lovers for this review, but otherwise no compensation was provided for this post. These are my true and honest opinions based on my experience.